Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom

Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom

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Achieve genuine inner healing， let go of past trauma and find clarity， resilience and freedom with #1 Sunday Times bestselling author Vex King。

Vex King developed inner healing techniques to help him find freedom from his troubled past and heal his emotional pain and trauma。 Since then he's helped hundreds of thousands of people to move forward on their own healing journey。 In this book， Vex provides an experience of healing through the layers of the self using yogic principles and unique practices。 These techniques are simple， accessible and have the power to produce exceptional results。 They include:

- Working with your body's energy
- Exploring and raising your inner vibration
- Creating positive relationships
- Exploring your personal history and rewriting limiting beliefs
- Uncovering your true self and reigniting your fire

Taking charge of your inner healing is one of the greatest acts of self-love。 By committing to this process and raising your vibration - the energy that courses through you and you radiate out into the world - you'll create space to welcome more joyful experiences into your life。

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Mell Meunier ，

This ended up in my DNF pile about half way through。 While the message is ok。 It is very repetitive。

Paul Schmidt ，

Key Takeaways:- “Certainly， any of these activities can be undertaken in a wholesome way， but so often they are driven by anxious undercurrents of ‘not good enough’。 Rather than relaxing and enjoying who we are and what we‘re doing， we’re comparing ourselves with an ideal， and try to make up for the difference。 We hold back and play it safe， rather than risking failure。”- “In this us-versus-them world， the unworthiness， the evil， is out there。 Whether it is a family schism or a generation-long w Key Takeaways:- “Certainly， any of these activities can be undertaken in a wholesome way， but so often they are driven by anxious undercurrents of ‘not good enough’。 Rather than relaxing and enjoying who we are and what we‘re doing， we’re comparing ourselves with an ideal， and try to make up for the difference。 We hold back and play it safe， rather than risking failure。”- “In this us-versus-them world， the unworthiness， the evil， is out there。 Whether it is a family schism or a generation-long war between ethnic groups， creating an enemy imparts a sense of control。 We feel superior; we feel right; we believe we are doing something about the problem。 Directing anger at an enemy， temporarily reduces our feelings of fear and vulnerability。”- “What we experience as the self is an aggregate of familiar thoughts， emotions， and patterns of behaviors。 The mind binds these together， creating a story about a personal individual entity that has continuity through time。”- “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am， then I can change。” -Carl Rogers- Radical Acceptance involves two wings: mindfulness to accept the present as it is， and compassion to care for yourself non-judgmentally like a mother for a child。- The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary of our freedom。- Inviting Mara to tea。 Simply saying yes to every experience that appears， accepting and welcoming。- The breath naturally guides our awareness from our mind to our body。- Buddhist perspective: “There’s no such thing  as a sinful or evil person。 When we harm ourselves or others， it is not because we are bad but because we are ignorant。 To be ignorant is to ignore the truth that we are connected to all of life， and that grasping and hatred is create more separation and suffering。 To be ignorant is to ignore the purity of awareness and capacity for love that expresses our basic goodness。”Highlights:- 23:54 - “The problem is that ego can convert anything to its own use - even spirituality。” - Cho Jo Jom Ba- 35:40 - “Certainly， any of these activities can be undertaken in a wholesome way， but so often they are driven by anxious undercurrents of ‘not good enough’。 Rather than relaxing and enjoying who we are and what we‘re doing， we’re comparing ourselves with an ideal， and try to make up for the difference。 We hold back and play it safe， rather than risking failure。”- “I grew up to have my father’s looks， my father’s speech patterns， my father’s posture， my father’s walk， my father's opinions， and my mother’s contempt for my father。” - Cartoonist Joel Fifer- 41:43 - “In this us-versus-them world， the unworthiness， the evil， is out there。 Whether it is a family schism or a generation-long war between ethnic groups， creating an enemy imparts a sense of control。 We feel superior; we feel right; we believe we are doing something about the problem。 Directing anger at an enemy， temporarily reduces our feelings of fear and vulnerability。”- 44:15 - “What we experience as the self is an aggregate of familiar thoughts， emotions， and patterns of behaviors。 The mind binds these together， creating a story about a personal individual entity that has continuity through time。”- 45:40 - “Yet， just this feeling of being a self， brings up this fundamental assumption that I am not ok。”- 48:35 - “True freedom is being without anxiety about imperfection。”- 53:40 - “As you go through your day， pause occasionally to ask yourself， ‘This moment do I accept myself as I am？’ Without judging yourself， simply become aware of how you are relating to your body， emotions， thoughts， and behaviors。 As the trance of unworthiness becomes conscious， it becomes to lose its power over our lives。”- “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am， then I can change。” -Carl Rogers- 1:04:46 - Radical Acceptance involves two wings: mindfulness to accept the present as it is， and compassion to care for yourself non-judgmentally like a mother for a child。- 1:08:16 - “The very nature of our awareness is to know what is happening; the very nature of our heart is to care。”- 1:41:00 - “The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary of our freedom。”- 1:58:40 - “The secret of spiritual life is the capacity to return to that which we have spent a lifetime hiding from。” - Charlotte Jocko Beck- 2:42:15 - Great quote by Rumi！！- 2:52:00 - What is happening right now？ What wants my attention？ What is asking for acceptance？- 2:52:20 - Inquiry is not a kind of analytical digging; we are not trying to figure out: ‘Why do I feel this sadness？’ This would only stir up more thoughts。 In contrast to the approach of western psychology。。。， the intention of experience is to awaken to our situation exactly as it is in this present moment。 It focuses on immediate feelings and sensations。”- ~3:07:00 - Inviting Mara to tea。 Simply saying yes to every experience that appears， accepting and welcoming。 For trauma， you don’t have to say yes if it will do more harm than good; simply find a way to mitigate the trauma by spending time with a friend or eating something。 For negative actions like hurting someone or falling into depression， you don’t have to say yes to that but can yes to the underlying emotions fueling the action。- ~3:31:00 - Beautiful， tender story of Tara gently speaking to her adolescent son。 Opening mindfully to oneself before speaking reactively with others。- 3:34:08 - Mindfulness of the body leads to happiness in this life， and the fullness of spirituality。- 3:38:00 - The breath naturally guides our awareness from our mind to our body。- 3:40:30 - The mind labels all experiences as pleasant， unpleasant， or neutral。 Pleasant ones open us; unpleasant ones cause us to contract; neutral ones cause us to disengage and look for a more stimulating experience。- 4:06:02 - “There is no way to avoid what’s in the body; we either pay attention to it or we suffer the consequences。” Alice Miller- 5:10:55 - “My love for what I do is clouded over when working becomes a strategy to prove my worth。 We are unable to give ourselves freely and joyfully to any activity if the wanting self is in charge。 And yet， until we attend ourselves to the basic desires and fears that energize the wanting self， it will insinuate itself into our every activity and relationship。”- 5:11:43 - “No amount of productivity or consuming recognition can break through the trance of unworthiness and put us in touch with the deepest self。”- 5:24:08 - “When we reject desire， we reject the very source of our love and aliveness。”- 5:32:20 - “Forgiving and accepting the presence of the wanting self was the giant step in Sarah’s transformation。”- 9:15:07 - Buddhist perspective: “There’s no such thing  as a sinful or evil person。 When we harm ourselves or others， it is not because we are bad but because we are ignorant。 To be ignorant is to ignore the truth that we are connected to all of life， and that grasping and hatred is create more separation and suffering。 To be ignorant is to ignore the purity of awareness and capacity for love that expresses our basic goodness。” 。。。more

Shannon ，

4。5 stars。 Great book！ I listened to the audiobook and will be ordering the physical book soon。 I'm excited to do the guided meditations since I was usually driving or running when a guided meditation came over my headphones。 All of the meditations appear to be available in Tara Brach's extensive Spotify repository！ As much as I appreciate and enjoyed this book， there were two aspects that didn't quite sit right， or at least that were difficult to relate to。The first is that most of the examples 4。5 stars。 Great book！ I listened to the audiobook and will be ordering the physical book soon。 I'm excited to do the guided meditations since I was usually driving or running when a guided meditation came over my headphones。 All of the meditations appear to be available in Tara Brach's extensive Spotify repository！ As much as I appreciate and enjoyed this book， there were two aspects that didn't quite sit right， or at least that were difficult to relate to。The first is that most of the examples （anecdotes， accounts） conveyed in this book are presented formulaically: introduction to individual who is seeking help from Tara， context of their trauma and how it interferes with their life， general description of type of treatment and word-for-word account of how the treatment or discussion ensued， and then *eureka！* breakthrough！ this person solved their problem and they lived free of its grasp from then on。 Accounts like this leave me skeptical。 I know that trauma and grief are cyclical and I know that even when we have breakthroughs， it is often difficult to sustain the newfound perspective or integrate it into our lives or identities。 Feeling skeptical of these examples left me skeptical of the methods and of how rosily the other content in the book was presented。The second is that there were a few parts that I didn't quite understand， probably because I don't think I can relate to them （yet）。 Most of these are in reference to transcendentalism and faith。 I know that having experienced significant trauma as a child， I have a lot to work through and I'm eager to move forward with this。 I also know that my biggest barrier to approaching the pain of trauma is that it is too big， too much， too incapacitating。 Tara's guidance regarding facing trauma in these situations is to take refuge， but each of the manners that one would take refuge requires some version of faith。 As an agnostic （mostly athiest） scientist， I have found that as much as I long to have faith in a higher power， it can't be forced。 I would give a lot to be able to trust in "the beloved" and rest knowing that I am safe and loved。 I have no idea how to do that。 As such， I finished the book invigorated and full of gratitude for that which I had learned but also carrying disappointment that maybe the real healing that these methods could provide are off limits to me until I can figure out how to Believe or translate Belief into something that speaks to me。 。。。more

Andre ，

Wonderful book if you are trying to find balance in your life and in your mind， and are struggling to do so。 Lots of helpful things to think about， and also practical steps and actions you can take， especially in the worst moments。 Recommended。

Ramona McConkie ，

Very insightful， practical book that was relatable and instructive。 I appreciated the combination of meditation with mindfulness and awareness practices。

Kristen ，

This book contains a graphic description of animal death in the last chapter with no warning or context。 I feel totally betrayed by the author who spends 17 chapters gaining your trust only to show a total disregard for the feelings of the reader in the last chapter。

Samantha ，

This one will require a few rereads， I can already feel it。 My favorite concept of this book is the art of pausing， so as to better be present in the middle of any strong emotion or experience。 Pausing， experiencing and relaxing into a moment is not my strength， but in the short while I’ve been reading this book， I’ve tried to practice it。 Also， she describes negative self talk as the “Trance of unworthiness” and it is so perfect。 It was wonderful。

Rachel ，

Moments I took away from this wise book:Strategies to manage the pain of inadequacy （15）: we embark on one self-improvement project after another。 We hold back and play it safe rather than risking failure。 We withdraw from experiencing the present moment。 We keep busy。 We become our own worst critics。 We focus on other people’s faults。 Do I accept my mind as it is？ （22） Do I judge myself for not being intelligent enough？ Humorous？ Interesting？ Am I critical of myself for having bad thoughts—mean Moments I took away from this wise book:Strategies to manage the pain of inadequacy （15）: we embark on one self-improvement project after another。 We hold back and play it safe rather than risking failure。 We withdraw from experiencing the present moment。 We keep busy。 We become our own worst critics。 We focus on other people’s faults。 Do I accept my mind as it is？ （22） Do I judge myself for not being intelligent enough？ Humorous？ Interesting？ Am I critical of myself for having bad thoughts—mean， judgmental or lusty thoughts？ Do I consider myself a bad meditaror because my mind is so busy？ Do I accept my emotions and moods as they are？ Is it okay for me to cry？ To feel insecure and vulnerable？ Do I condemn myself for getting depressed？ Am I ashamed of feeling jealous？ Am I critical of myself for being impatient？ Irritable？ Intolerant？ Do I feel that my anger or anxiety is a sign that I am not progressing on the spiritual path？ Do I feel I’m a bad person for the ways I behave？ Am I down on myself for not accomplishing enough？ For not standing out or being special in my work？ （23）“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am， then I can change。” —Carl Rogers （24）The two parts of genuine acceptance—seeing clearly and holding our experience with compassion—are as interdependent as the two wings of a great bird。 Together， they enable us to fly and be free。 （27）Could I bear to lose my spiritual family， a whole way of life， by leaving？ （34）In my mind a new voice arose: I want to accept myself completely， even if I am as flawed as my teacher claimed。 （35）Our attention allows the light of wisdom and compassion to enter （37）What would it be like if I could accept life—accept this moment—exactly as it is？ （45）I began to see how utterly stuck I was in the stories and suffering of trance。 By staying put and not occupying myself with other activities， I faced the shame and fears that I had been running from for years。 （52）Any of us， when our particular place of insecurity or woundedness is touched， easily regress into the fullness of trae。 At these times there seems to be no choice as to what we feel， think， say or do。 Rather， we go “on automatic” reacting to our most habitual way to defend oursevles， to cover over the rawness of our hurt。Rumi:tThis being human is a guest house。ttEvery morning a new arrival。tA joy， a depression， a meanness，tSome momentary awarenessttcomes as an unexpected visitor。 tWelcome and entertain them all！ …tThe dark thought， the shame， the malicettmeet them at the door laughing，tttand invite them in。tBe grateful for whoever comes，ttbecause each has been senttttas a guide from beyond。I have worked with many clients and students who reach a critical gateway when they finally register just how much pain they are in。 （80）There is something wonderfully bold and liberating about saying yes to our entire imperfect and messy life。 With even a glimmer of that possibility， joy rushes in。 （86）As I stood there that night outside Naryan’s door， feeling and “letting be” what was happening inside me， the sensations slowly began to shift。 The pressure in my chest that wanted to explode in anger subtly gave way to deep soreness inside， as if a fist were gripping my heart。 “I’m afraid of something。” I realized。 （95）No wonder we respond with fear and compulsivity to try to manage or eliminate our pain。 （106）The whole world was moving—like the life within me， nothing was fixed， solid， confined。 I knew without a doubt that I was part of the world。 （120）If our desires are simple and can be temporarily satisfied， our way of responding is straightforward。 When thirsty， we drink。 When tired， we sleep。 When lonely， we talk to a friend。 yet ， as we know， it’s rarely this uncomplicated。 Most of the time our wanting is not so easily satisfied。 Caught in the trance of unworthiness， our desires fixate on soothing， once and for all， our anxiety about imperfection。 We strive to tie up all the loose ends and to avoid making mistakes， even though we know both are impossible。 （133）Most mainstream religions—Judeio-Cristian， Buddhist， Hindu， Muslim， Confucian—teach that our wanting， passion and greed cause suffering。 While this certainly can be true， their blanket teachings about the dangers of desire often deepen self-hatred。 We are counseled to transcend， overcome or somehow manage the hungers of our physical and emotional beings。 We are taught to mistrust the wildness and intensity of our natural passions， to fear being out of control。 Audre Lorde tells us， ‘ We have been raised to fear … our deepest cravings。 And the fear of our deepest cravings keeps them suspect， keeps us docile and loyal and obedient， and leads us to settle for… many facets of our own oppression。’ （143）（155） Rumi:tA strange passion is moving in my head。ttMy heart has become a birdtttWhich searches in the sky。tEach part of me goes in different directions。ttIs it really sotThat the one I love is everywhere？“We have to face the pain we have been running from。 In fact， we need to learn to rest in it and let its searching power transform us。” —Charlotte Joke Beck （161）Fear is the anticipation of future pain。 （166）The ultimate loss—the one underlying all those smaller losses I’m afraid of—is the loss of life itself。The problem is: The emotion of fear often works overtime。 Even when there is no immediate threat， our body may remain tight and on guard， our mind narrowed to focus on what might go wrong。 When this happens， fear is no longer functioning to secure our survival。 We are caught in the trance of fear and our moment-to-moment experience becomes bound in reactivity。 We spent our time and energy deafening our life rather than living it fully。 （168）Feelings and stories of unworthiness and shame are perhaps the most binding element in our trace of fear。 When we believe something is wrong with us， we are convinced we are in danger。 Our shame fuels ongoing fear， and our fear fuels more shame。 （170）Buddha had discovered fearlessness—the open， clear awareness that reorganizes the arising and passing of fear without contracting or identifying with it。 Take refuge in the truth of his awakening can inspire us on our own path toward fearlessness。 （175）We are held by sangha when we work individually with a therapist or healer， or when a close friend lets us be vulnerable and real。 Taking refuge in the sangha reminds us that we are good company （178）[SCARY] We must agree to feel what our mind tells us is “too much。” We must agree to the pain of dying， to the inevitable loss of all that we hold dear。 （186）In this radiant and changless awareness we can， as Rilke puts it， ‘contain death， the whole of death。。。can hold it in one’s heart gentle， and not。。。refuse to go on living。’ Radical Acceptance of fear carries us to this source of all freedom， to the ultimate refuge that is our true home。 （194）Thomas Merton writes， ‘True love and prayer are learned in the hour where prayer has become impossible and the heart has turned to stone。’ （206）（212） HafiztDon’t surrender your lonelinessttSo quickly。tLet it cut more deep。tLet it ferment and season youttAs few humantOr even divine ingredients can。tSomething missing in my heart tonightttHas made my eyes so soft，tttMy voicetSo tender，tMy need of GodttAbsolutelytttClearSuf teaching （216）Overcome any bitterness that may have comebecause you were not up to the magnitude of the paintthat was entrusted to you。Like the Mother of the World，Who carries the pain of the world in her heart，tEach one of us is part of her heart，ttAnd therefore endowedttWith a certain measure of cosmic pain。I tried to comfort him by explaining that when we really spend time with any living beings—as he had with the ants—we find out that they are real。 They are changing， animated， hungry， social。 （221）When we see who is really in front of us， we don’t want them to suffer。 Our circle of compassion naturally widens to include them。 （232）Sometimes the very people we are closest to become unreal to us。 （237）（239） HafizIt happens all the time in heaven，tAnd some daytIt will begin to happentAgain on earth—That men and women …tWho give each otherttLight，tOften will get down on their kneestAnd… With tears in their eyestWill sincerely speak， saying，t“My dear，tHow can I be more loving to you;ttHow can I be moretttKind？Australian aboriginal woman: “If you have come to help me， then you are wasting your time。 But if you have come because your destiny is bound up with mine， then let us work together。” （241）Novelist and mystic Romaine Rolland ways， “there is only one heroism in the world: to see the world as it is， and to love it。” （249）These prisoners were not letting themselves off the hook。 While taking full responsibility for their actions， they were also able to recognize the truth of their basic goodness。 （254）Indian master Bapuji （258）:My beloved child，Break your heart no longer。Each time you judge yourself you break your own heart。You stop feeding on the love which is the wellspring of your vitality。The time has come， your timeTo live， to celebrate and to see the goodness that you are…Let no one， no thing， no idea or ideal obstruct youIf one comes， even in the name of “Truth，” forgive it for itstUnknowingDo not fight。Let go。tAnd breathe—into the goodness that you are。We forget that every person， including ourselves， is in a new moment。 （265）（283） Anonymous:I sought my god，tmy god I could not seeI sought my soul，tmy soul eluded meI sought my brothertand found all threeWhile it take courage to be vulnerable， the reward is sweet: We awaken compassion and genuine intimacy in our relationships with others。 （294）We use the word friend so casually that we forget its power and depth。 Friendliness is one of the main translations of the Pali word metta or lovingkindness。 The love and understanding of a friend， like a deep well of the purest water， refreshes the very source of our being。 If all religions and great ideologies disappeared and our one pursuit was friendship—unconditional friendliness with each other， our inner life， all nature—ah， what a world！ （298）Richard made a nasty comment about how he hoped that her insecurities weren’t rubbing off， causing their daughter’s discontent at public school。 Karen felt a hot surge of anger but didn’t say anything。 Instead she imagined the KM group， the now familiar and caring faces。 She remembered the feeling of acceptance and felt a huge wash of gratitude that she no longer needed to believe his story about her defects and limitations。 Karen still felt annoyed and quickly ended the conversation， but she also felt excited and hopeful。 By feeling supported and accepted， she had been able to step out of the old reactive dance with Richard （300）Pain does not belong to one individual。 Not taking pain personally is essential to Radical Acceptance。 （302）The Tibetan Book of the Dead offers the deepest reassurance: “Remember these teachings， remember the clear light， the shining light of your own nature。 No matter where or how far you wander， the light is only a split second， a half a breath， away。 It is never too late to recognize the clear light of your pure awareness。” （325） 。。。more

Nikki Lane ，

Wow。 I intend to read this again and again and again。

Terresa ，

Excellent！

Dana Garling ，

Relatable， reflective & would read again。

Markku Halinen ，

Reading this book made a deep impression。 While I do not consider myself too much of a "spiritual" person， a lot of the subject matter felt personal and very relatable。 Every once in a while the text ventured a little bit too far out into the new age land， but managed to mostly stay in the realm of rational thought。 I would recommend this to pretty much everyone。 Reading this book made a deep impression。 While I do not consider myself too much of a "spiritual" person， a lot of the subject matter felt personal and very relatable。 Every once in a while the text ventured a little bit too far out into the new age land， but managed to mostly stay in the realm of rational thought。 I would recommend this to pretty much everyone。 。。。more

Yangzi Jiang ，

The first step to meaning action is to embrace your negative thoughts and emotions as they are。In order words， face the reality as it is， which is the definition of suffering according to Naval。 The fear of comforting short-term suffering creates long-term suffering。Just that the book doesn’t progress much after the first 2 chapters。

Jade Macedo Muniz ，

awesome， great tips and exercises

Frida K。 ，

I first picked up this book after reading several Pema Chödrön books。 I found it important to read both Buddhist original texts， as well as information written by other "Western" Buddhist followers since I am a U。S。 American deeply interested in this philosophy。I enjoyed some sections of this book， especially brief outlines on Buddhist philosophy， history， and mindful practice。 However， I did not anticipate the number of stories taken from her life or therapy practice being interspersed through I first picked up this book after reading several Pema Chödrön books。 I found it important to read both Buddhist original texts， as well as information written by other "Western" Buddhist followers since I am a U。S。 American deeply interested in this philosophy。I enjoyed some sections of this book， especially brief outlines on Buddhist philosophy， history， and mindful practice。 However， I did not anticipate the number of stories taken from her life or therapy practice being interspersed through the majority of the book。 I understand that they serve an important function to contextualize Buddhism for "Western" practitioners。 However， I would've preferred more text space dedicated to the philosophy of Buddhism rather than the particulars of her patients' lives and her successes using this philosophy。 I did not feel like I had much new insights from the book in itself that I haven't already read from Chödrön or TNH。 Still， there are some words of wisdom in here and I appreciate the read overall。 （Even though I may have seen these mantras before， there is nothing wrong with being reminded of them so as to instill them even more deeply in my daily life and practice。） 。。。more

Angela ，

This is not a religious book。 You do not have to be into Buddhism。 Anyone can benefit from the author's techniques and reflections。 I was having issues with radical acceptance around people in my life and this was helpful。 This is not a religious book。 You do not have to be into Buddhism。 Anyone can benefit from the author's techniques and reflections。 I was having issues with radical acceptance around people in my life and this was helpful。 。。。more

Amy ，

"We learn early in life that any affiliation - with family and friends， at school or in the workplace - requires proving that we are worthy。 We are under pressure to compete with each other， to get ahead， to stand out as intelligent， attractive， capable， powerful， wealthy。 Someone is always keeping score。" pg 11 "We learn early in life that any affiliation - with family and friends， at school or in the workplace - requires proving that we are worthy。 We are under pressure to compete with each other， to get ahead， to stand out as intelligent， attractive， capable， powerful， wealthy。 Someone is always keeping score。" pg 11 。。。more

Laura ，

To re-read instantly。 To do the guided meditations regularly。

Melissa ，

Great information and meditations。 But was hard to keep my attention。

Apathique ，

it's cool but i didn't know anything about buddhism prior， and i think it's better for people who are already familiar with certain tenets。 it's cool but i didn't know anything about buddhism prior， and i think it's better for people who are already familiar with certain tenets。 。。。more

Ross Beck-macneil ，

（Read as audio book）What is it about？Paying attention to your thoughts， emotions and body in order to overcome issuesWhat did I think？I didn't finish this book。 I got half way through before stopping。 I found it too long。 12 hours on audiobook。 It might have been a 3 or 4 star book if it was half the length。 A lot of neo-spiritual Buddhist claptrap， but some decent takeaways。 I am going to avoid this sort of book in the future。 （Read as audio book）What is it about？Paying attention to your thoughts， emotions and body in order to overcome issuesWhat did I think？I didn't finish this book。 I got half way through before stopping。 I found it too long。 12 hours on audiobook。 It might have been a 3 or 4 star book if it was half the length。 A lot of neo-spiritual Buddhist claptrap， but some decent takeaways。 I am going to avoid this sort of book in the future。 。。。more

Jie Li ，

I went in the book with a couple of questions。 How do you balance between self acceptance and self improvement？ Where does the boundary lie？ Tara says， the boundary of radical acceptance is the boundary of the freedom。 I cannot say the book answered all the questions， but it did provide some insights。 Accepting merely means acknowledgement， so you do not fight with reality。 You might not like it， but you fully acknowledge it and move on。 And according to the book， you can only move on after you I went in the book with a couple of questions。 How do you balance between self acceptance and self improvement？ Where does the boundary lie？ Tara says， the boundary of radical acceptance is the boundary of the freedom。 I cannot say the book answered all the questions， but it did provide some insights。 Accepting merely means acknowledgement， so you do not fight with reality。 You might not like it， but you fully acknowledge it and move on。 And according to the book， you can only move on after you make peace with reality。 I love Tara's meditation practice。， that is why I picked up this book。 However the book comes across as disorganized and repetitive at times。 The stories are not always compelling and I have a hard time to grapple with the logic of how the chapters are organized。 If a concise and compelling narrative is what you care， this book might not work for you。 。。。more

Sora ，

This book is geared towards people who seek validation from others and is supposed to help you， instead， obtain validation from yourself。 *cough* *cough* The author emphasizes compassion for yourself。 She talks about her experiences and how she has coped with others， expectations of herself and others， and working with people。 She also worked in Worcester， MA， so shout out for that！ I started reading the book and thought her comments were helpful。 But， then she talked about how she lived on a co This book is geared towards people who seek validation from others and is supposed to help you， instead， obtain validation from yourself。 *cough* *cough* The author emphasizes compassion for yourself。 She talks about her experiences and how she has coped with others， expectations of herself and others， and working with people。 She also worked in Worcester， MA， so shout out for that！ I started reading the book and thought her comments were helpful。 But， then she talked about how she lived on a commune and she lost me。 I put the book down for a good 6 months。 Then， the completionist in me made me finish it。 I don’t think her ideas are earth shattering。 I didn’t find the book too helpful。 。。。more

Tenisha ，

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Sarina M ，

4。5 My therapist was plugging this， and it was pretty insightful。 The basic premise is to be mindful towards your emotions and to accept them with compassion instead of resistance。 Basically resisting bad emotions adds a bunch of fear and stress to the already unpleasant feeling， and if you bury anger/fear/sadness they are going to sabotage you eventually。 I will try to treat my emotions like a wave， and ride it through without fighting it or getting sucked down into it。 It'il pass in time and i 4。5 My therapist was plugging this， and it was pretty insightful。 The basic premise is to be mindful towards your emotions and to accept them with compassion instead of resistance。 Basically resisting bad emotions adds a bunch of fear and stress to the already unpleasant feeling， and if you bury anger/fear/sadness they are going to sabotage you eventually。 I will try to treat my emotions like a wave， and ride it through without fighting it or getting sucked down into it。 It'il pass in time and if I am not freaking out and getting tumbled about then maybe I can look at my situation objectively。 Also I have this tendency whenever I'm sad for my brain to try to guess why I'm sad with a bunch of kinda passive aggressive ideas， so I want to stop doing that。 There's a bunch of other stuff in here that was great， and a lot about trauma that didn't seem to particularly apply to me （and I hope never will）。 Also I like the idea that the past and present are over， so there is no point wallowing in what could have been or what should be happening now。 Like if you're flying in a plane and freaking out that it might crash， this does nothing to affect the plane's flight， so why not just fucking relax？ I should just live in the now and plan for a fun future。 - This wasn't really part of this book， that's just what I assumed Radical Acceptance meant before I actually read what it is。 。。。more

Kristin ，

A couple good things I liked were the pause and some of the meditations。 Did not care for all of the anecdotes about the patients as I could not relate to any of them。 Overall was hoping for something different out of this book and it just wasn’t for me。

Sarah ，

Tara Brach's explanations of the psychology behind mindfulness meditation and compassion are insightful and inspiring。 I read this way too fast as I had to return it to the library！ The chapters are a set out to show how meditation can be used in various aspects of life， I found it pretty comprehensive and useful。 Tara Brach's explanations of the psychology behind mindfulness meditation and compassion are insightful and inspiring。 I read this way too fast as I had to return it to the library！ The chapters are a set out to show how meditation can be used in various aspects of life， I found it pretty comprehensive and useful。 。。。more

Mackenzie Abraham ，

4。5

Erin ，

Wonderful audio book this one。 I'm listening a second time to try to catch the bits of wisdom。 Psychology and Eastern-thought meld。Some stories hard to listen to if you have had trauma yourself。 Wonderful audio book this one。 I'm listening a second time to try to catch the bits of wisdom。 Psychology and Eastern-thought meld。Some stories hard to listen to if you have had trauma yourself。 。。。more

Dan ，

It's maybe because I went in expecting something revolutionary， but this book was OK。 RA had some profound insight， but I think it could have been about half the length as some of the content felt repetitive。 Additionally， some of the personal anecdotes fell flat or loosely related to the topic。 Finally， it is impossible to do the guided meditations while reading them， and the concept of recording myself reading the meditations is very odd。 I will say that there were some concepts that went over It's maybe because I went in expecting something revolutionary， but this book was OK。 RA had some profound insight， but I think it could have been about half the length as some of the content felt repetitive。 Additionally， some of the personal anecdotes fell flat or loosely related to the topic。 Finally， it is impossible to do the guided meditations while reading them， and the concept of recording myself reading the meditations is very odd。 I will say that there were some concepts that went over my head。 I will give Brach the benefit of the doubt on this one and say that this was because I am still new to Buddhism， mindfulness， and meditation。 I would still recommend a read-through。 。。。more

Reference

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hathitrust digital library https://babel.hathitrust.org/cgi/ls?q1=Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom&field1=ocr&a=srchls&ft=ft&lmt=ft

The British Library https://bll01.primo.exlibrisgroup.com/discovery/search?query=any,contains,Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom&tab=LibraryCatalog&search_scope=Not_BL_Suppress&vid=44BL_INST:BLL01&lang=en&offset=0